What does it mean to be married? This seems like a strange question nowadays because in our parents generation we wouldn't even question it. Perceptions of marriage amongst young people now living with single parents and split families have dramatically changed leaving us in the position where we even question why we would even do it.
'The Big day' is a term rammed down young women's throats from a certain point of their life. A day for you resulting in the best day of your life. I think the big day is different for men and women and certain gender roles and expectations certainly play their part in this difference in thought. What does it mean to wear your parents wedding dress? Where does this leave us in terms of our mentality towards the subject?
The notion of 'the line', as Céline has stated with her title, is an expected path for young people to follow. Where it was once the norm to be married, more and more young people are opting for the opposite. Independence is a crucial element of our lives in today's culture and this ties to our resistance against tying the knot. But I get the feeling this has come around from our parents generation. If we consider that expectancy and pressure for everyone to be married it would undoubtedly result in a few mismatches. I can vouch for that from personal experience.
These young, independent eyes pierce us as we look at the white sheen of beauty before us. It is clinical and reaches us through a clean swipe. The bare skin of the women is the only colour involved as white dresses blend into the background. We see their facial expressions before we see anything else. There is a commercial aesthetic that plays on an idea of perfect wedding magazines planning out the day you should be having. This aesthetic does not try too hard to convince us that it has no commercial output. Instead it lies through its nervous looks and shifty body language. It is strictly personal. And this lucid aesthetic breaks the perfect sheen that we associate with the 'big' day and makes us challenge where we are now with the idea.
Regarding our views on marriage we are not in a position where we are abandoning it all together. Far from it. Instead we are considering our professional options and financially viable scenarios. We think about it a lot more. We no longer have to follow the line, but we probably will end up doing so. There is not an epidemic of pushing away from the notion of marriage but we have hindsight on our side, something our parent's generation perhaps didn't have.